Welcome! I’m delighted to announce that my new book, Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprising Good—About Feeling Special, (HarperCollins, 2015) is available to buy online and in book stores now.
The internationally acclaimed book named Amazon's Book of the Month, Daily Mail's Book of the Week, featured on The Oprah Winfrey Network, in the New York Times, the cover story in Psychology Today, and selected as The Millions "most anticipated book of the year".
“Is there someone in your life who's hurting you and you just don't know it? In this Harvard researcher's illuminating—reads-like-a-novel—book, he reveals how to identify and repair your relationships to live with more fulfillment.” Oprah’s Book Club 2.0
When most of us hear the word narcissism or narcissist, we envision vain, preening, braggarts who can’t stop talking about themselves. But most of the time, we’ve got it wrong; many narcissists aren’t driven by looks, fame, or money—some may even be shy or soft-spoken. The startling truth is we’ve been distracted by an empty stereotype that blinds us to far more reliable signs of danger—and an entire generation is suffering because of it.
In Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin—a Harvard Medical School Instructor and clinical psychologist with more than two decades of experience—offers a radically new model for understanding this often misused term. Narcissism, argues Dr. Malkin, is essentially a spectrum of self-importance— and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance. When we casually invoke the term “narcissist,” most of us are referring to the shadowy outer edge of the spectrum, which can shade into dangerous psychopathy. Yet there are also those who live at the lower end of the spectrum—dubbed “echoists” by Dr. Malkin. These, too, are people we know; people so fearful of attention or acknowledgment that they often seem to have no voice at all.
Drawing on his own research, as well as the latest findings in psychology, Dr. Malkin uses vivid stories of people from all walks of life to teach concrete strategies for spotting--and coping with--excessive narcissism. At the same time, he explains why embracing some degree of narcissism—the drive to feel special— is essential to maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth. Using his new tool, the Narcissism Test, he not only guides readers through the process of measuring their narcissism, but also offers step-by-step advice to prevent unhealthy narcissism—and nurture healthy narcissism— in ourselves, as well as our partners, our colleagues, our friends, and especially our children.
As practical as it is wise, Rethinking Narcissism doesn’t just help people avoid the temptations and dangers of extreme narcissism—and narcissists—in both the real world and cyberspace; it helps everyone, including people who don’t feel special enough, find their voices and live more passionate, fulfilling lives.
Rethinking Narcissism has enjoyed international expert and critical acclaim for its exciting blend of empirical rigor, down to earth, practical strategies, and compelling story telling. In it you’ll discover:
- A novel, research-derived test, which measures both healthy narcissism and subtler forms of unhealthy narcissism.
- A new way of understanding—and breaking—our attraction to narcissists: Echoism. You'll learn what it is, and how to cope with it.
- The 3 varieties of narcissists: introverted, extroverted, and communal and what they all have in common
- 5 ways to quickly recognize even the subtlest narcissists.
- A 2-part, research-informed approach to determining, in three weeks or less, if you should stay or go
- 8 evidence-based parenting strategies for preventing unhealthy narcissism in children
- 6 empirically-informed approaches for coping with unhealthy narcissism at work.
- SoWe: 5 research grounded, concrete rules for healthy social media use.
Order your copy today to learn practical tips on how to cope with and understand narcissism, whether you see it in your friends, lovers, family members—or yourself.
Insights into Rethinking Narcissism
THE NEW YORK TIMES
"Malkin, a therapist and psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School, takes a more inspirational attitude..."
"[A] fascinating book."
Rethinking Narcissism was named by The Daily Mail as Book of the Week
"A gripping and sometimes terrifying book that will make you look anew at your spouse, your parents, your children, your friends, your enemies, your fellow workers and - perhaps most pertinently - your reflection in the mirror. And if your reflection pleases you far more than any of the others, you probably won't like what you read."
OPRAH'S BOOK CLUB 2.0
"The book that protects you from narcissists.”
"Among all the books that have been published on the topic in the past 10 years, Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special stands out as a definite must-read."
Rethinking Narcissism was chosen by The Millions as one of the most anticipated books of 2015
TODD KASHDAN, PhD
"Certainly one of the best books I've read this year. Don't be fooled by the title.. this book is for anyone trying to better understand themselves and other people." - Todd Kashdan, PhD, Professor of Psychology, George Mason Universityauthor of The Upside of Your Dark Side
"This is a true gem on the subject of narcissism.”
"[Dr. Malkin’s] reassuring tone and plethora of case histories offer considered advice and generous encouragement.”
"...a book that will have readers rethinking themselves and, paradoxically, those around them.”
"Thank you, Dr. Malkin, for saying what needed to be said and clearing things up for me. For all of us."
“Dr. Malkin offers a surprising, accessible analysis of narcissism.” - Gretchen Rubin, best selling author of Better than Before and The Happiness Project
Dr. Drew Pinksy
“[Dr. Malkin] shows us how to…manage relationships with narcissistic partners, friends, colleagues, and family.” - TV’s Dr. Drew Pinksy, author of The Mirror Effect
Dr. Sue Johnson
"…an enthralling book…it will become a classic.” - Dr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of Hold Me Tight and Love Sense
Dr. Peggy Drexler
“…a book that’s persuasive. Insightful, and never dry.” - Dr. Peggy Drexler, author of Raising Boys Without Men and Our Fathers. Ourselves
Leon F. Seltzer PhD
“If you’re to buy just one book on narcissism, this is the one to purchase.” - Dr. Leon F. Seltzer, PhD., author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy
“...gives us all a coherent way of talking about a much-discussed but often over-simplified and over-dramatized subject in these “look at me” times.” - Peg Streep, bestselling author of Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt
"Chock full of eminently practical advice on how to cope with the dangers of narcissism, in ourselves and others, Rethinking Narcissism brings much needed compassion and clarity to one of the most vexing problems in mental health without ever resorting to false hopes or naivete. In that way, the book itself is special.”—Tom Wootton, Huffington Post Blogger and author of The Bipolar Advantage
Sunday Times Magazine
"Narcissists. They’re everywhere…Not according to Dr. Craig Malkin, whose new book suggests we’ve got it all wrong”
"Is there a narcissist in your life? Chances are, the answer’s yes—here’s how to spot them.”
Joseph Shay PhD
"If you’re only going to read one book about narcissism this is it. It’s not only eminently accessible for the lay audience and professional alike, but it offers a profound analysis of the nature of narcissism and common misunderstandings about it. Add to this Dr. Malkin’s penetrating insights, his superb ability to tell a good story, and his courage in disclosing elements of his own story, and you wind up with this remarkable book.— Joseph Shay, PhD Lecturer Harvard Medical School, co-author of Psychodynamic Group Psychotherapy and co-editor of Odysseys in Psychotherapy and Complex Dilemmas in Group Therapy.
New England Psychologist
"...will interest anyone who is intrigued about narcissism, what it means, where it comes from. ..[Dr. Malkin's] empiricist side shines through.— New England Psychologist.
Irene Oestrich, chefspsykolog, Ph.D.
"Craig Malkins book is another step in the direction of a broad and inclusive psychological understanding of human behaviour and a step away from prejudice and narrow concepts of the human mind.— from the book's foreword by Irene Oestrich, chefspsykolog, Ph.D.