Dr. Malkin Quoted in the Press - 2019

Are They A Narcissist Or Just Self-Confident? Here's The Difference

MindBodyGreen, 01-Dec-2019

Confidence is about knowing and appreciating your own qualities and worth, and that’s a good thing. Narcissism involves an exaggeration of and obsession with one’s qualities and worth. Read More.

How To Know If The Person You're Dating Is A 'Healthy' Vs 'Unhealthy' Narcissist

Your Tango, 12-Nov-2019

The word certainly conjures up a negative image! However, we all fall somewhere on the scale between pure selflessness and complete arrogance. Read More.

Seeing the Narcissist in Your Rearview Mirror: What You Missed

PsychCentral, 29-Oct-2019

When it comes to not taking responsibility, the brushstrokes are very broad and include, as Dr. Craig Malkin observed in his book Rethinking Narcissism, what he calls “emotional hot potato.” Read More.

3 Types of Narcissistic Parents

Yahoo! Lifestyle, 18-Oct-2019

“The more extreme the narcissism (and the more disordered the narcissist) the more likely you are to see physical and emotional abuse,” Craig Malkin, Ph.D., lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of “Rethinking Narcissism,”. Read More.

Unloved Daughters and the Problem of Unmet Goals

Psychology Today, 17-Oct-2019

Dr. Malkin reminds us that narcissism is a spectrum—think of it as a line that stretches from left to right—and in the middle is healthy self-regard. Read More.

Top 3 Things You Can Do To Help a Loved One Who’s Stuck in Life

Thrive Global, 15-Oct-2019

A personality disorder is a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions, hold onto a stable sense of self and identity, and maintain healthy relationships in work, friendship, and love. Read More.

The emotionally intelligent way to deal with 5 types of coworkers

Fast Company, 07-Oct-2019

Rather than stroke their ego or ignore them altogether, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin previously told Fast Company that a better way is to “catch” and acknowledge them when they display good behavior. Read More.

Unfit for Office

The Atlantic, 03-Oct-2019

“Pathological narcissism begins when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray, and even hurt those closest to them,” Malkin says. Read More.

Narcissism 101

Medium, 23-Sep-2019

Scientists don’t even know for sure what causes narcissistic tendencies. But it can be useful to think of narcissism as a spectrum, from absolute selflessness to total arrogance. Everyone is on it, argues Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School instructor and author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

Echoism: The Trait You Might Relate to If You Grew Up With a 'Narcissistic' Parent

Yahoo! Lifestyle, 10-Sep-2019

Echoism is a trait of people who are skilled at echoing the needs and feelings of those around them — often at the expense of their own needs and feelings. Read More.

How long should you be with your partner before you move in together?

Newshub., 06-Sep-2019

Relationship expert Craig Malkin says the key to success is for both partners to show " an active and clear commitment before deciding to live together". Read More.

What is Echoism? A psychologist tells us about how some people really hate being praised

Mic, 20-Aug-2019

Malkin and his colleagues have found that echoists tend to agree with statements such as “I'm afraid of becoming a burden,” and “When people ask me my preferences, I’m often at a loss.” While these traits might sound a lot like run-of-the-mill people-pleasing behavior or even humility, Malkin says there’s a big difference. Read More.

You Aren’t a Narcissist, But Could You Be an Echoist?

PsychCentral, 14-Aug-2019

Echoism is a fairly new term for a personality type that many of us might be familiar with — the people pleaser. In the recent years Harvard psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin has done work defining echoism and the traits associated with it. Read More.

When Scapegoating Is a Weapon in Mom or Dad’s Arsenal

PsychCentral, 13-Aug-2019

Scapegoating is a way of controlling the dynamics among and between family members and, not surprisingly, mothers (and fathers) who are high in control or narcissistic traits or are combative by nature use it. Read More.

Vulnerable Vs Grandiose Narcissism: Which Is More Harmful?

Psychology Today, 23-Jun-2019

As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in Rethinking Narcissism, vulnerable narcissists “are just as convinced that they’re better than others as any other narcissist, but they fear criticism so viscerally that they shy away from, and even seem panicked by, people and attention”. Read More.

Are You an Echoist? Take This Quiz to Find Out

Curiosity, 21-Jun-2019

Echoism is a trait, not a diagnosis, and while it's popped up here and there in papers over the last few decades, its big moment in the sun came with Dr. Craig Malkin's 2016 book, "Rethinking Narcissism." "... their defining characteristic is a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way," Malkin wrote. Read More.

Spotting the Narcissist by How He Tells (and Curates) His Story

PsychCentral, 11-Jun-2019

Narcissists bury normal emotions like fear, sadness, loneliness, and shame because they’re afraid they’ll be rejected for having them; the greater their fear, the more they shield themselves with the belief that they’re special. Read More.

6 Ways the Narcissist Takes Control of a Relationship

PsychCentral, 05-Jun-2019

The women who are more likely to swept in by the narcissist’s charms past the initial meeting are those whose emotional needs weren’t met in childhood, and whose mother or father or both were unloving, narcissistic, combative, withholding, or hypercritical. These women typically have low self-esteem, especially if their mothers were high in narcissistic traits; the chances are good that rather than be criticized or scapegoated by their mothers, they learned to duck under the radar and draw as little attention to themselves as possible. In his book, Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin calls these daughters “echoists,” pointing out that they actually lack healthy narcissism. Read More.

Listening to Echoism

Psychology Today, 07-May-2019

You won't find echoism in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. That's because it's not a disorder, but a measurable trait that my colleagues and I have studied for the past six years. And like all traits, it exists to a greater or lesser degree in all of us, causing damage only when it becomes extreme. Read More.

Narcissistic Mothers: The Long-Term Effects on Their Daughters

PsychCentral, 30-Apr-2019

If you think of narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, the ends are occupied by the echoist, who lacks self-regard, and the narcissist, who uses exaggerated self-regard as armor. Read More.

8 signs you’re dating a narcissist

Ladders, 27-Apr-2019

Narcissism exists on a spectrum, Malkin said, and individuals with severe cases that compromise interpersonal relationships likely have narcissistic personality disorder. Read More.

Is Your Toxic Childhood Making You Open to Abuse in Adulthood?

PsychCentral, 17-Apr-2019

This way of going along to get along is the ultimate self-effacement and, not surprisingly, these daughters have little sense of who they are, in addition to having low self-esteem. In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin describes narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, pathological narcissism on one end and echoism on the other other; the daughters I am describing here are echoists, content to stay off the radar. Read More.

Why do women stay? - is the wrong question

Modern Ghana, 27-Jan-2019

Batterers, the ill-formed, and ignorant individuals may blame women for staying, “But you won't find a single expert familiar with domestic violence who agrees that victims like being in an abusive relationship,” asserted Dr. Craig Malkin. Read More.

What a Narcissist Means by Saying "I Love You"

News Dog, 22-Jan-2019

This is hard part—really understanding what motivates and drives those who are high in narcissistic traits and what underlies their words and actions. Keep in mind that it’s the underlying drivers of behavior that set the person high in narcissistic traits apart, and not always the behaviors themselves. They are more than capable of nice gestures, for example, but they don’t do for others but for the value of how they’re perceived. Read More.

Aging Anxiety and Facebook's 10-Year Challenge

Psychology Today, 18-Jan-2019

Dr. Craig Malkin points out that narcissism is driven by a pathological need to feel special, and claiming not to have aged in a decade would certainly seem to express the narcissist’s need. Read More.

What It’s Like to Be a Diagnosed Narcissist

The Cut, 16-Jan-2019

Narcissism is something we all have. The core of all narcissism, says Malkin, is “a pervasive, universal human tendency: the drive to feel special, exceptional, unique.” Research tells us that most people (even the really, truly average ones, which is, of course, most of us) think of ourselves as special. Untrue as it may be, this little bit of superiority is a good thing, says Malkin: It makes us dream bigger, work harder, and maybe even live longer. This, says Malkin, is healthy narcissism. Read More.

3 Ways To Spot Covert Narcissists Before They Strike

Your Tango, 15-Jan-2019

The term 'covert narcissism' (aka hypersensitive or vulnerable) was coined to capture the pattern in narcissists who aren’t loud, vain, chest-thumping braggarts, but are still — as their partners discover soon enough — just as arrogant and argumentative as people with the prouder, more outgoing brand of extraverted narcissism (aka overt or grandiose). Read More.

In a Nutshell: What is Gaslighting?

Sexy Confidence, 10-Jan-2019

Usually, the people gaslighting their partners are sociopaths or narcissists. It’s about power: by making you feel like you’re wrong or going crazy, you rely on that person more. He feels like he has more control over you. Read More.


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