Dr. Malkin Quoted in the Press - 2019
Are They A Narcissist Or Just Self-Confident? Here's The Difference
Confidence is about knowing and appreciating your own qualities and worth, and that’s a good thing. Narcissism involves an exaggeration of and obsession with one’s qualities and worth. Read More.
How To Know If The Person You're Dating Is A 'Healthy' Vs 'Unhealthy' Narcissist
Your Tango, 12-Nov-2019
The word certainly conjures up a negative image! However, we all fall somewhere on the scale between pure selflessness and complete arrogance. Read More.
Seeing the Narcissist in Your Rearview Mirror: What You Missed
When it comes to not taking responsibility, the brushstrokes are very broad and include, as Dr. Craig Malkin observed in his book Rethinking Narcissism, what he calls “emotional hot potato.” Read More.
3 Types of Narcissistic Parents
Yahoo! Lifestyle, 18-Oct-2019
“The more extreme the narcissism (and the more disordered the narcissist) the more likely you are to see physical and emotional abuse,” Craig Malkin, Ph.D., lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of “Rethinking Narcissism,”. Read More.
Unloved Daughters and the Problem of Unmet Goals
Psychology Today, 17-Oct-2019
Dr. Malkin reminds us that narcissism is a spectrum—think of it as a line that stretches from left to right—and in the middle is healthy self-regard. Read More.
Top 3 Things You Can Do To Help a Loved One Who’s Stuck in Life
Thrive Global, 15-Oct-2019
A personality disorder is a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions, hold onto a stable sense of self and identity, and maintain healthy relationships in work, friendship, and love. Read More.
The emotionally intelligent way to deal with 5 types of coworkers
Fast Company, 07-Oct-2019
Rather than stroke their ego or ignore them altogether, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin previously told Fast Company that a better way is to “catch” and acknowledge them when they display good behavior. Read More.
Unfit for Office
The Atlantic, 03-Oct-2019
“Pathological narcissism begins when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray, and even hurt those closest to them,” Malkin says. Read More.
Scientists don’t even know for sure what causes narcissistic tendencies. But it can be useful to think of narcissism as a spectrum, from absolute selflessness to total arrogance. Everyone is on it, argues Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School instructor and author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.
Echoism: The Trait You Might Relate to If You Grew Up With a 'Narcissistic' Parent
Yahoo! Lifestyle, 10-Sep-2019
Echoism is a trait of people who are skilled at echoing the needs and feelings of those around them — often at the expense of their own needs and feelings. Read More.
How long should you be with your partner before you move in together?
Relationship expert Craig Malkin says the key to success is for both partners to show " an active and clear commitment before deciding to live together". Read More.
What is Echoism? A psychologist tells us about how some people really hate being praised
Malkin and his colleagues have found that echoists tend to agree with statements such as “I'm afraid of becoming a burden,” and “When people ask me my preferences, I’m often at a loss.” While these traits might sound a lot like run-of-the-mill people-pleasing behavior or even humility, Malkin says there’s a big difference. Read More.
You Aren’t a Narcissist, But Could You Be an Echoist?
Echoism is a fairly new term for a personality type that many of us might be familiar with — the people pleaser. In the recent years Harvard psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin has done work defining echoism and the traits associated with it. Read More.
When Scapegoating Is a Weapon in Mom or Dad’s Arsenal
Scapegoating is a way of controlling the dynamics among and between family members and, not surprisingly, mothers (and fathers) who are high in control or narcissistic traits or are combative by nature use it. Read More.
Vulnerable Vs Grandiose Narcissism: Which Is More Harmful?
Psychology Today, 23-Jun-2019
As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in Rethinking Narcissism, vulnerable narcissists “are just as convinced that they’re better than others as any other narcissist, but they fear criticism so viscerally that they shy away from, and even seem panicked by, people and attention”. Read More.
Are You an Echoist? Take This Quiz to Find Out
Echoism is a trait, not a diagnosis, and while it's popped up here and there in papers over the last few decades, its big moment in the sun came with Dr. Craig Malkin's 2016 book, "Rethinking Narcissism." "... their defining characteristic is a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way," Malkin wrote. Read More.
Spotting the Narcissist by How He Tells (and Curates) His Story
Narcissists bury normal emotions like fear, sadness, loneliness, and shame because they’re afraid they’ll be rejected for having them; the greater their fear, the more they shield themselves with the belief that they’re special. Read More.
6 Ways the Narcissist Takes Control of a Relationship
The women who are more likely to swept in by the narcissist’s charms past the initial meeting are those whose emotional needs weren’t met in childhood, and whose mother or father or both were unloving, narcissistic, combative, withholding, or hypercritical. These women typically have low self-esteem, especially if their mothers were high in narcissistic traits; the chances are good that rather than be criticized or scapegoated by their mothers, they learned to duck under the radar and draw as little attention to themselves as possible. In his book, Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin calls these daughters “echoists,” pointing out that they actually lack healthy narcissism. Read More.
Listening to Echoism
Psychology Today, 07-May-2019
You won't find echoism in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. That's because it's not a disorder, but a measurable trait that my colleagues and I have studied for the past six years. And like all traits, it exists to a greater or lesser degree in all of us, causing damage only when it becomes extreme. Read More.
Narcissistic Mothers: The Long-Term Effects on Their Daughters
If you think of narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, the ends are occupied by the echoist, who lacks self-regard, and the narcissist, who uses exaggerated self-regard as armor. Read More.
8 signs you’re dating a narcissist
Narcissism exists on a spectrum, Malkin said, and individuals with severe cases that compromise interpersonal relationships likely have narcissistic personality disorder. Read More.
Is Your Toxic Childhood Making You Open to Abuse in Adulthood?
This way of going along to get along is the ultimate self-effacement and, not surprisingly, these daughters have little sense of who they are, in addition to having low self-esteem. In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin describes narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, pathological narcissism on one end and echoism on the other other; the daughters I am describing here are echoists, content to stay off the radar. Read More.
Why do women stay? - is the wrong question
Modern Ghana, 27-Jan-2019
Batterers, the ill-formed, and ignorant individuals may blame women for staying, “But you won't find a single expert familiar with domestic violence who agrees that victims like being in an abusive relationship,” asserted Dr. Craig Malkin. Read More.
What a Narcissist Means by Saying "I Love You"
News Dog, 22-Jan-2019
This is hard part—really understanding what motivates and drives those who are high in narcissistic traits and what underlies their words and actions. Keep in mind that it’s the underlying drivers of behavior that set the person high in narcissistic traits apart, and not always the behaviors themselves. They are more than capable of nice gestures, for example, but they don’t do for others but for the value of how they’re perceived. Read More.
Aging Anxiety and Facebook's 10-Year Challenge
Psychology Today, 18-Jan-2019
Dr. Craig Malkin points out that narcissism is driven by a pathological need to feel special, and claiming not to have aged in a decade would certainly seem to express the narcissist’s need. Read More.
What It’s Like to Be a Diagnosed Narcissist
The Cut, 16-Jan-2019
Narcissism is something we all have. The core of all narcissism, says Malkin, is “a pervasive, universal human tendency: the drive to feel special, exceptional, unique.” Research tells us that most people (even the really, truly average ones, which is, of course, most of us) think of ourselves as special. Untrue as it may be, this little bit of superiority is a good thing, says Malkin: It makes us dream bigger, work harder, and maybe even live longer. This, says Malkin, is healthy narcissism. Read More.
3 Ways To Spot Covert Narcissists Before They Strike
Your Tango, 15-Jan-2019
The term 'covert narcissism' (aka hypersensitive or vulnerable) was coined to capture the pattern in narcissists who aren’t loud, vain, chest-thumping braggarts, but are still — as their partners discover soon enough — just as arrogant and argumentative as people with the prouder, more outgoing brand of extraverted narcissism (aka overt or grandiose). Read More.
In a Nutshell: What is Gaslighting?
Sexy Confidence, 10-Jan-2019
Usually, the people gaslighting their partners are sociopaths or narcissists. It’s about power: by making you feel like you’re wrong or going crazy, you rely on that person more. He feels like he has more control over you. Read More.
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