Dr. Malkin Quoted in the Press - 2017

When Your Boss is a Narcissist

Psychology Today, 08-Jan-2017

Narcissists are ego-driven, big-headed, cold-blooded individuals who expect total loyalty from others without being loyal in return. According to Dr. Craig Malkin, Harvard Medical School Lecturer and author of Rethinking Narcissism, narcissists want to feel important. Read More.

Dr. Malkin Quoted in the Press - 2016

9 little ways to make your husband feel butterflies again

Coastal Courier, 20-Dec-2016

You two still love each other — but the days are getting duller. Your husband is a great man, but sometimes it's difficult to rekindle the spark you once had. If your husband needs a bit of a nudge, here are some small ways to give the him butterflies he had when you were dating. Read more.

22 signs you might be a narcissist

Midland Daily News, 09-Dec-2016

The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure," Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin writes in The Huffington Post. That's why narcissists avoid emotional displays. Read More.

Life After You: Recovering from a Narcissist

PsychCentral, 02-Dec-2016

It’s often only at the end that you may fully appreciate how much of you has been chipped away over the course of the relationship. Read more.

Sexual Assault Awareness Month

Kerry Hayes, 04-Nov-2016

“Eventually there’s sort of this wearing down for people on the receiving end of the abuse where they continue to tolerate more and over time feel less entitled to safety.” Read More.

Narcissistic Parenting: Its Harmful & Long-Term Side Effects On Children

Parent Herald, 30-Oct-2016

Children with parents who have narcissistic personality disorder display side effects, with chronic self-blame among them. According to a The Huffington Post report penned by clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, narcissistic parents are emotionally tone deaf and they are too absorbed in themselves to focus on their child's pleas or pains. Read More.

Why We Can't Stop Reading About Trump

LA Weekly, 30-Oct-2016

"Absolutely, we are attracted to this kind of extroverted narcissist," Malkin says. "They’re more outgoing, they tend to be chest-thumping, glib, show a lot of braggadocio. They’re overwhelmingly rated as more attractive, whether they’re physically attractive or not. Narcissists are more likely to take risks." Read More.

8 Common Effects Of Narcissistic Parenting

The Huffington Post, 27-Oct-2016

What happens to the development of our personality when we live in the shadow of narcissistic parent? Here are eight of the most common effects. Read More.

Do you have a narcissist in your life? These traits can be telltale signs., 24-Oct-2016

When narcissists feel vulnerable, they don’t want to process those feelings. Instead, they put others down to bolster their self-esteem, what Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato.” Read More.

Is there someone else Narcissus?

Dr. Gail Beck, 23-Oct-2016

Narcissism is a word that gets used a lot these days, mostly because of the American election, but I am absolutely going to say nothing else about that because I want to focus on the central message of Craig Malkin’s 2015 book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad – and Surprisingly Good – About Feeling Special. Read More.

Narcissists are everywhere — but they may not be the people you think they are

The Washington Post, 07-Oct-2016

Some true narcissists are obsessed with helping other people — kind of self-aggrandizement through martyrdom. We’ve all met people like this, Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” tells Webber — “self-sacrificing to the point where you can’t stand to be in the room with them.” Other narcissists might have so damaged a sense of self that they cannot handle criticism and become highly introverted. Read More.

Boosting your emotional intelligence may be key to winning and keeping friends., 04-Oct-2016

"Part of it is the self-centeredness of the personality," he said. "With narcissism, you are looking for the power and status. That can interfere with relationships over time if what you are looking for is status over warmth and caring." Read More.

Is He or She an Addict First? Or a Narcissist First?

Psychology Today, 03-Oct-2016

Deep down, is every addict also a narcissist? And is every narcissist actually an addict? These are the difficult questions that the partner of a narcissist and addict has to explore and answer for him or herself. Read More.

Is it time to get help? Narcissism epidemic.

Aquarius Magazine, 01-Oct-2016

Malkin argues that modern society is no more narcissistic than previous generations, merely that today’s show off has more platforms on which to do it. He says, “Technology is only as healthy as our use of it. Research suggests that people largely express their personalities though social media: extroverts are more extroverted, introverts are more introverted, narcissists are more narcissistic.” Read More.

Why Unloved Daughters Fall for Narcissists

PsychCentral, 28-Sep-2016

Feelings of anger and jealousy can easily be triggered in an anxious person by the threat of separation or a perceived slight; the narcissist in your life knows this about you and he’s likely to play this reactivity to his advantage. Narcissists are expert at projecting their feelings onto you; it’s what Dr. Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato” in his book Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

5 Moments Getting Back Together With An Ex is a Waste of Time, 27-Sep-2016

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School says those who are abused usually rationalize the situation. “People wind up blaming themselves for the abusive behavior of their partners. They convince themselves if they approach the person differently, maybe they won’t be abused.” He also says that having a relationship with an abusive partner is like a gambling addiction, “the person being abused is focused on the positive and waiting for the next positive.” Read More.

How Narcissism Hurts Us All

Alternet, 17-Sep-2016

Craig Malkin, the author of Rethinking Narcissism, warns that expecting a one-size-fits-all manifestation of narcissism is likely to cloud your judgment when you encounter one who runs against the popular grain. Read More.

What to Do When a Woman Doesn’t Like You

True Viral News, 15-Sep-2016

The truth being that “people are attracted to us, or not, for all sorts for reasons that are beyond our control. We worry about the right word, the right approach, the right clothes, all because we’re convinced that if we craft ourselves in the perfect way, we’ll find a great date.” Read More.

5 Things A Narcissist Never Does

PsychCentral, 05-Sep-2016

Think of it more like a jolt of energy that accompanies any intense feeling and courses through your nervous system. A big dose of arousal ramps up our feelings of attraction. Anxiety excites. Anger entices. Terror titillates. Unfortunately, as far as our bodies are concerned, uncertainty is as good a source of passion as any other feeling. Read More.

The Real Narcissists (COVER FEATURE)

Psychology Today Magazine, 01-Sep-2016

Dr. Malkin is featured in this month's cover story of Psychology Today. Read More.

Does your office have a clear hierarchy? Then you could be a narcissist, researchers say.

Daily Mail, 17-Aug-2016

People who have narcissistic tendencies are more likely to work in an office with a clear hierarchy, researchers have found. They discovered those with narcissistic traits tended to support hierarchical businesses and organizations when they were either at the top of the hierarchy or when they expected they could rise to the top. Read More.

Lindsay Lohan Exposes a Sad Reality About Abuse

attn:, 08-Aug-2016

Many people in abusive relationships faced domestic abuse as children or watched one of their parents suffer in an abusive relationship. Read More.

4 Keys To Leaving A Bad Relationship

The Huffington Post, 08-Aug-2016

Self-blame comes in handy when a relationship no longer works and leaving feels too painful. If we convince ourselves that someone’s being hurtful or insensitive because of our own failings, there’s still hope. All we have to do is improve. If I’m the problem, then the happiness of the relationship is entirely in my hands. It’s a solution that preserves hope at the expense of our self-esteem. Read More.

Did You Marry A Narcissist?

PsychCentral, 05-Aug-2016

The caricature of the narcissist the culture embraces—the guy so full of himself that every sentence begins with “I,” the bully who’s easy to spot from just a few yards, the control freak out in the open—is, according to Craig Malkin, far from the truth. Read More.

Why America can’t get enough of Trump’s campaign of spectacle

The Buffalo News, 17-Jul-2016

Most politicians are narcissists, Malkin said, and voters usually can discern the healthy ones from the rest. Read More.


Canvas8, 15-Jul-2016

While narcissism is often considered a bad thing, does it have to be? Psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin isn’t sure. He sat down with Canvas8 to explain what healthy narcissism looks like. Read More.

These Simple Steps Will Improve Your Dating Life, 13-Jul-2016

There’s nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to carry herself–and someone who is confident enough not to seek another person’s approval is definitely attractive. Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a Harvard psychologist says that confidence makes you seem more trustworthy and the lack of it “may even unintentionally spoil the attraction. Read More.

Is Narcissism All Bad?

Beliefnet, 08-Jul-2016

Narcissism is more than a stubborn character flaw or a severe mental illness or a rapidly spreading cultural disease, transmitted by social media. Read more.

7 Hours Of CEC Credit For Rethinking Narcissism

Web Wire, 21-Jun-2016

With this being the final month for mental health professionals to obtain their licensing hours through continuing education credits, if you or a colleague is in the process of gathering credits, the book Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin could be perfect for you! Read More.

The Secret To Spotting Subtle Narcissists

The Huffington Post, 20-Jun-2016

Subtle narcissism is marked by an entitlement surge — those moments when a normally understanding friend or partner or coworker angrily behaves as if the world owes them. It’s usually triggered by a sudden fear that their special status has been threatened in some way. Read More.

Why Recovering From the Narcissist in Your Life Is So Hard

Psychology Today, 20-Jun-2016

One of the most dizzyingly disorienting experiences about uncovering layers of lies is that you end up questioning your judgment about everything, especially if you had a partner who covered his or her tracks by trying to convince you that you were ‘crazy’ or ‘paranoid.’ Read More.

A narcissistic Leader tends to move towards being a Fascist leader

Intuitive fred888, 09-Jun-2016

Craig Malkin calls a lack of healthy narcissism "echoism" after the nypmh Echo in the mythology of Narcissus. Read more.

4 Reasons a Narcissist is like Catnip–at first…

PsychCentral, 08-Jun-2016

The narcissist likes to be in control and unless you are willing to park your own needs by the door in perpetuity, there are bound to be conflicts—lots of them. Additionally, the narcissist is an expert at playing games and manipulating others; he plays what Dr. Malkin calls “emotional hot potato,” meaning that he denies his own feelings and projects them onto you. Read more.

The Communal Narcissist: Another Wolf Wearing a Sheep Outfit

Psychology Today, 24-May-2016

In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin distinguishes between three types of narcissists—the extrovert, the introvert, and the communal. Read More.

Why We Still Think About Rodin's 'The Thinker,' Now Sitting Pensively At The Peabody Essex

90.9 WBUR, 16-May-2016

Malkin is author of the book, “Rethinking Narcissism,” and blogs for The Huffington Post. For him, "The Thinker" is open to interpretation, and he believes our reactions to the sculpture tell us something about ourselves. Read More.

13 Things You Must Know if You Are Divorcing a Narcissist

Psychology Today, 11-May-2016

“A good therapist,” says Malkin, “should talk to you about the possibility of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, common in abuse survivors, even when the only abuse has been serial infidelity.” Keep in mind that your lawyer isn’t a therapist, and your therapist isn’t an attorney. Read More.

Featured In Psychologie Heute - German Publication

Featured In Psychologie Heute - German Publication, 01-May-2016

Ich finde mich prima! Sie stellen sich selbst in den Mittelpunkt und haben kein Ohr und kein Herz für die anderen: Extreme Narzissten sind eine Plage. Doch zu eine gewissen Grad sind wir fast alle narzisstisch. Wir sind von uns eingenommen, halten uns für besser, als wir tatsächlich sind. Und das ist gut so!

What It Takes — 2016: Excerpt II From ‘BRIGHT, INFINITE, FUTURE’

The Huffington Post, 28-Apr-2016

While a strong ego is necessary to survive the political gauntlet, if it’s too large then a person can plunge over the cliff into narcissism if not solipsism, a place where others exist only for your enhancement. And extreme self-absorption is inconsistent with the public good or maintaining public support. Read More.

13 Honest Confessions From People Married To Narcissists

The Huffington Post, 27-Apr-2016

Keep in mind that not everyone who’s vain or self-absorbed necessarily has the disorder. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, an instructor of psychology at Harvard University and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special. Here are some signs to look out for. Read More.

HOW Are We Fooled by a Narcissist? (Learn how!)

Surviving Narcissistic Abuse, 13-Apr-2016

While many descriptions of narcissistic behavior would have you imagine someone who begins every sentence with “I” and demands that everything be done his way, it’s actually more complicated than that. You don’t fall for it because you’re stupid but because you misread his motivation. Read More.

Understanding the Language of the Narcissist

PR Newswire, 12-Apr-2016

In reading her book, I have found myself instead becoming her fan." Dr. Craig Malkin, Psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School and author of the critically acclaimed book, "Rethinking Narcissism," totes Swithin's work, "After years of research as an advocate, Swithin knows enough about these disorders to put some clinicians to shame. If you need to start over, this is the woman you want holding your hand through the process." Read More.

Warum die Diagnose Narzissmus etwas Gutes hat

Die Welt, 12-Apr-2016

Malkin takes the word narcissism and shows how adaptive it is for people to feel valuable. Read More.

Featured in Die Welt - German Publication

Featured in Literarische Welt - German Publication, 09-Apr-2016

Verdammt, ich lieb mich. Craig Malkin erklart Narzissmus als Adaptionsstrategie.

How To Spot (And Work With) The Office Narcissist

Fast Company, 08-Apr-2016

We can get too focused on that stereotype that we miss the danger signs that have nothing to do with greed or vanity. Narcissism is a spectrum of self-importance, and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance, says Malkin. Read More.

Erst ich – und dann die anderen, 05-Apr-2016

Narcissism occurs, according to Malkin, on a graded scale. He deems insufficient narcissism to be harmful. "The less someone thinks something better, the more he takes himself back until he has such a low self-esteem that he finds himself worthless and powerless." Read More.

Featured In Der Spiegel - German Publication

Featured In Der Spiegel - German Publication, 01-Apr-2016

Ich-Erzählung. Wenn jeder an sich selbst denkt, ist an alle gedacht: Der Psychologe Craig Malkin erklärt in einem Sachbuch, warum Narzissmus eine feine Sache ist.

Book Explores Many Dimensions Of Narcissism

New England Psychologist, 01-Apr-2016

"...will interest anyone who is intrigued about narcissism, what it means, where it comes from. ..[Dr. Malkin's] empiricist side shines through... Read More.

6 Reasons It's Easy to Be Fooled by a Narcissist

Psychology Today, 01-Apr-2016

In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin underscores the way the narcissist exercises stealth control, explaining that since he thinks of himself as not depending on or needing anyone, he doesn’t want to ask for things so he doesn’t. Read More.


Featured In Der Spiegel - German Publication, 26-Mar-2016

"Das Wort ist in jüngster Zeit so ungeheuer populär geworden", schreibt der Psychologe Craig Malkin, "dass sogar Narziss selbst vor Stolz erröten würde." Read More.

Unmasking a Narcissist: 5 Red Flags

PsychCentral, 17-Mar-2016

The narcissist is angry that you want to talk but he has to make it your anger so he begins by goading you: “You look angry, for a change. You know, you’re always angry about something.” You say that you’re not angry but that you are upset and want to talk to him. He answers, “I don’t want to talk to you when you’re angry.” Now, you are getting angry because he never wants to talk anything through…Anyway, see the pattern? It’s hot potato and you don’t need me to tell you where it will end. Read More.

Won’t You Be My Neighbor: Is Technology Destroying Our Front Porch?

The Alternative Daily, 01-Mar-2016

According to Dr. Craig Malkin of Harvard Medical School, this can lead to a condition he calls “cybercelibate” — when someone forgoes friendship and/or physical intimacy and chooses instead online connections and gaming thrills. Read More.

What kind of narcissist are you? Take the test

The Telegraph, 26-Feb-2016

Are you a selfie obsessive or do you prefer to hide away from the camera flashes? Psychologists have identified two forms of narcissism as a personality trait. Read More.

This Simple Test From Harvard-Trained Psychologist Could Reveal if You Are a Narcissist — and Which Kind

The Blaze, 26-Feb-2016

A coinciding test developed by Dr. Craig Malkin, a Harvard-trained psychologist, can be used to “determine the scale of your narcissism. Read More.

In Love with a Narcissist? 3 Pitfalls of Insecurity

PsychCentral, 11-Feb-2016

Research suggests that most narcissists prefer short-term relationships but, in any case, since the narcissist feels most comfortable when he’s calling the shots, there’s no way of thrashing issues out with him if the stay is a long one. In fact, he plays the blame game better than almost anyone, placing responsibility for whatever is wrong on your shoulders. (In his book, Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin calls this “emotional hot potato.”) Read More.

Humility lesson: We’re All Turtles On Fence Posts

The Shereveport Times, 01-Feb-2016

Malkin was afraid an unhealthy narcissist might end up as President. He observed most politicians have narcissistic qualities, and I agree. Perhaps many leaders have narcissistic qualities. Here are some of Malkin’s suggestions for voters to consider: Read More.

4 Behaviors That Unmask a Hidden Narcissist

Psychology Today, 20-Jan-2016

What I didn’t understand at the time and do now is that the narcissist shows his true colors in conflict. That point is brought out with clarity by two new books on the subject. Read More.


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