Here in America, we're a little over a year away from casting our votes for the next President of the United States. Campaigns are underway to help convince the public who they should vote for. Which potential leaders and their actions deserve your praise? My recent article on the Huffington post (that's currently had almost 5,000 likes/shares) indicates that we all want to make smart, informed decisions about the answer to that question.
In my post I stated that, "Politicians are groomed by us--by our applause, by our polls, by our votes. Whatever you seem to love or hate, they'll embrace or reject." So really as a nation, we have to be extraordinarily careful about which behaviors we applaud--and which ones we reject.
If you've read my book Rethinking Narcissism you'll already know there's such a thing as healthy narcissism and that many people throughout history who possessed it have been great leaders. And you also know that some behaviors encourage people to remain healthy--and some virtually guarantee they'll just become intolerably arrogant.
So how do we bring out the best in our potential candidates?
Applauding leaders who demonstrate: careful reflection; authentic, vulnerable feelings; collaboration and team spirit; the ability to apologize or admit they've made a mistake; and the curiosity to openly ask questions-- and seek answers --when they need more information.
What could bring out the worsT?
Applauding leaders who display: insulting behavior or any forms of bullying; the tendency to manipulate or exploit others; black and white thinking ; and evasiveness, such as skirting around issues or glossing over details.
I've just touched on a few of the key behaviors that the research shows leaders with healthy and unhealthy narcissism can demonstrate.
For the complete guide which I encourage you to share with your fellow Americans - or anyone in a country where the people elect their leaders- visit The Huffington Post, and help make your country a positive presence in the world!
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